“Depression isn’t real”

We need to be more open about mental health and stop the stigma. We hear this every year but there are still people out there who don’t believe in depression. Usually, it’s the people closest to you. So this post is for those who think depression isn’t real. Why do you think Robin Williams, a successful man with family, money, and fame, took his own life? You think he did that because of a “made up illness?” You have NO IDEA what someone is going through.

“But he always seemed so happy…” That tends to be the case for a lot of suicide attempts/success that I have seen. It has taken the life of a dear friend and college classmate of mine. He seemed happy. Always the life of the party. The shining light in the room.

From SAVE.org:
Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States.
Everyday, 123 people die from suicide. Every 12 minutes….
Depression affects 20-25% of Americans.
Only half of Americans suffering from Major Depression receive treatment.

There are so many more facts. And yeah I went 0-100 from depression to Suicide because when it comes to the latter, they go hand in hand. Furthermore, I bet those who have gone that far did so because they’re closest people “didn’t think it was real.”

So if you feel up to it, comment on this post and tell me your understanding of depression. If it affects you, tell us what happens and how you feel.

We will try to dumb this down for this who don’t get it.

What Is Depression?
Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home.
psychiatry.org

For me, depression comes quickly and without warning. It is usually in the fall and winter (Seasonal Affective Disorder). While at work or with friends, it is constant laughing and making jokes. Smiling. As soon as I get alone, a wave of sadness comes over me. I can’t explain it. I get home and it just feels heavy. Exhausted from a full day of holding a mask to appear okay. And honestly, I do feel okay during that time. I’m busy. I’m with people. I just keep moving. What’s hard is when I go sit in my car and am finally alone with my thoughts that I battle everyday. I drive 45 min home with those thoughts. And that’s just the beginning.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that comes and goes with the seasons, typically starting in the late fall and early winter and going away during the spring and summer. Depressive episodes linked to the summer can occur, but are much less common than winter episodes of SAD.
NIH.gov

So if you have a loved one that seems sad and you don’t get it…because they have everything they could possibly want and need!! Right?? Don’t tell them that. Do not tell someone you think depression isn’t real and they need to lighten up and be appreciative of what they have.

Instead, do some research and stop being so damn ignorant.

I DO NOT want sympathy or comfort from this post. I am just sick and tired of the ignorance that comes from people who don’t believe in something just because it has never affected them! I have lived with depression for many years. That is why I stay so busy! I am okay right now. I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I know that warmer days are coming. I know that this Pandemic will be over eventually and we can all return to our normal lives. For now, I just need to feel what I am feeling and if I ignore you, it’s because I want to be left alone. It is OKAY to feel that way.

For those experiencing depression, you are not alone. We are with you. Do what you need to do to make yourself better. If you ever consider Suicide, PLEASE reach out. If you have someone close to you making it worse, get away from them! What they say to you is a reflection of who they are and does not define you or make you smaller. That person shaming you has a small mind and you can’t change that.

“Hurt people hurt people.”

I would like to say that my Podcasts have helped me! Every morning on the way to work, I listen to the Mel Robbins show. It’s basically like listening to other people’s struggles and their counseling sessions, then benefiting from her advice. I also listen to Audible books. Between the two apps, these are influential speakers I listen to besides Mel: Joyce Meyer, Max Lucado, Dave Ramsey, and Rachel Hollis.

I’ll end with some quotes by these lovely people!

“There will always be someone who doesn’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you.” -Mel Robbins

“Embracing chaos might be the journey we take to finding peace.” -Rachel Hollis

“You can be pitiful or you can be powerful, but you can’t be both.” -Joyce Meyer

“There is a reason the windshield is bigger than the rearview mirror. The future matters more than the past.” -Max Lucado

“Don’t try to do everything at once. Take it one step at a time.” -Dave Ramsey

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2 thoughts on ““Depression isn’t real”

  1. Yep, I can be fine at work, all smiles as long as I’m busy, but start crying as soon as I get home to the garage. I feel like a fraud sometimes, like people don’t believe I’m depressed cuz I hide it so well, but honestly as long as I’m distracted I’m relatively fine and I’m thankful for the distraction. I have a myriad of issues tho that I’m working on, trauma, toxic shame, cptsd, that people just don’t understand and although they mean well, sometimes their efforts to be ‘helpful’ just make me feel worse. Anyway. I’m definitely going to check out those podcasts, thank you for your post and suggestions!

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